19 02, 2021

SEVEN WAYS TO BE A POSITIVE INFLUENCE ON CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE

2021-02-19T12:34:28+11:0019 February, 2021|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author: Dr Justin Coulson


 

Parents and teachers influence children most during their first twelve years of life. We have less influence over teens as they become increasingly independent and look to their peers for guidance and approval.

The following strategies will help ensure that you have a positive influence on children at any age.

1.Be available

Nothing says “You matter” more than a busy parent giving a child undivided attention. Research has established that children whose parents are emotionally present for their kids have better social, academic, and wellbeing outcomes than those whose parents aren’t available.

2. Be warm

Sometimes we can forget that our […]

12 02, 2021

FOUR WAYS TO RESPOND TO KIDS WHO LOVE TO HAVE THE LAST WORD

2021-02-12T11:12:18+11:0012 February, 2021|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author:  Michael Grose


 

“Don’t do it!”

I sat in the back of the classroom and I saw a fourteen-year-old student taunt his teacher in a way that only young adolescent boys can do.

The teacher asked the student to get back to work and stop disturbing others, reminding him that his behaviour was out of order.

The student grudgingly resumed his task. But just before he put his head down, he threw out a comment about it being a stupid piece of work that he had to do.

This young fella’ threw down an ‘imaginary rope’ (the last word, a taunt, a jibe, a […]

5 02, 2021

SUCCEEDING AT THE PARENTING LONG GAME

2021-02-05T13:13:22+11:005 February, 2021|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author:  Michael Grose


 

Parenting is the ultimate long game. You are in it for the long haul. You can’t change your mind, although there are times that you’d like to refund or at least trade a child in for a more agreeable model. You have to gird your loins, put a smile on your face and cope.

In the last few years, there’s been a great deal of attention and resources directed toward teacher wellbeing, which is commendable. It’s not just teachers who need some TLC. Parents who spend a great part of their day looking after, caring for and worrying […]

4 12, 2020

THE POWER OF SORRY

2021-02-05T09:33:29+11:004 December, 2020|Categories: Archive, Archive 2020, Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author: Maggie Dent


 

Our boys tend to get into trouble more than our girls. There are lots of cultural and biological reasons for this but much of it boils down to the fact that boys are still soft-wired to be ‘mammoth hunters’, ready to react to any threat.

Generally, boys have more muscle than girls and, with that, a physicality that gets them in strife. There’s also brain research that shows that, while females tend to quickly shift emotions from the brain’s limbic system to the word centres of the brain, males tend to shift them into their bodies.

This is more […]

27 11, 2020

MANAGING THE MOTHER LOAD

2021-02-05T09:33:27+11:0027 November, 2020|Categories: Archive, Archive 2020, Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author: Dr Jodi Richardson


 

“The mental load means always having to remember.”

Emma, a French cartoonist summed up the mental load that most mothers carry in her 2017 viral comic, ‘You should’ve asked’. In the opening scene, a very hassled mother was preparing for a dinner party, while feeding her two young children, dealing with a noisy dog and answering the phone, all while she was hosting a colleague for dinner. As the dinner boils over the stove and onto the floor she looked at her partner imploringly. He unwittingly answered, “But you should’ve asked! I would have helped.”

This scene artfully […]

20 11, 2020

STAYING SAFE ONLINE

2021-02-05T09:33:06+11:0020 November, 2020|Categories: Archive, Archive 2020, Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Last week at the College, eServices ran our first cybersecurity drill at the College to educate staff on the issue of people trying to steal their username and password.

Cybercrime is certainly on the rise, with 1 in 3 adults being affected and at a cost of $29 Billion in 2019 in Australia alone. This event led to some rich discussions around the College this week and stories of encounters with scammers. The internet is a place of great resources and information. For example, I am particularly fond of learning new card […]

20 11, 2020

MODELLING SELF-KINDNESS

2021-02-05T09:33:06+11:0020 November, 2020|Categories: Archive, Archive 2020, Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author:  Michael Grose


This has been a tough parenting year. On a personal level it’s been challenging, but when you add the extra difficulty of helping children and young people navigate this year, you’d be forgiven for feeling like you’ve had enough.

It’s timely to look at US-based academic Dr. Brene’ Brown’s research that informed her book The Gift of Imperfect Parenting. Brown’s core finding was that the best parenting strategies rely on modelling for them to be adopted by children. That’s a little scary as it means we need to be the adults that we want to our kids to become.

There […]

6 11, 2020

STOP LOOK LISTEN SAY

2021-02-05T09:33:01+11:006 November, 2020|Categories: Archive, Archive 2020, Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author: Michael Grose


 

Recently, I saw a remarkable act of parenting delivered in difficult circumstances.  A mother calmly won cooperation from her very excited four-year-old daughter just minutes after an unexpected visit from a neighbour and her children.

It was time for bed but Miss Four-Year-Old looked too wound up to go. Her mother calmly said, “Harper….stop!” There was a long pause between the two words, giving Harper time to take notice.

“Look at me, please.” Harper made eye contact. “Now listen.”

“I want you to go into your room. Put on your pyjamas. Then choose a book.” Three instructions only.

“Harper, what did […]

29 10, 2020

A FLEXIBLE APPROACH TO RAISING KIDS

2021-02-05T09:32:35+11:0029 October, 2020|Categories: Archive, Archive 2020, Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author: Michael Grose


 

This year’s unique challenges have brought a sharper focus on child-rearing styles. Parents who rely on one style have often struggled to meet the emotional needs of their children.

Kids who are worried, fearful or fretting about the future initially benefit from a nurturant, empathetic approach. “I get it” is what they want to hear so they feel safe and secure. They also benefit from a firmer approach where an adult communicates “You can cope with this” is something kids need to hear when they experience change, difficulty and disappointment.

This combination of nurturance and firmness is known as […]