24 09, 2020

HOW TO BOUNCE BACK FROM EPIC PARENTING FAILS

2020-09-25T11:27:13+10:0024 September, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author:  Amy Moran as published in Psychology Today


 

As a parent, you’re going to fail at one time or another. In fact, there’s a good chance you’ll fail on a regular basis.

Parenting fails don’t make you a bad parent. In fact, every time you mess up, you have an opportunity to sharpen your parenting skills and teach your child valuable life lessons.

Social Media Has Changed the Way Parents Discuss Failure

Social media has led to an interesting shift in the way we talk about parent failures. It’s encouraged us to be more open about funny and relatable parenting problems while also discouraging us from […]

3 09, 2020

HELP KIDS TAP INTO THEIR INNER RESOURCES

2020-09-04T13:15:13+10:003 September, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author: Michael Grose


 

My first parenting mentor, Maurice Balson, author of Becoming Better Parents constantly reminded parents, “If you want your child to be resourceful you need to put them in positions to develop their resources.”

Balson’s resourcefulness message is just as apt today. Coping with change, dealing with small losses, handling rejection and overcoming disappointment are the types of experiences that build a child’s or young person’s inner resources.

Developing resourcefulness is the appropriate approach to take when considering the disruptive impact that coronavirus is having on kids’ lives. A child who is struggling to come to grips with the changes […]

28 08, 2020

Wear it Purple Day

2020-08-28T11:32:33+10:0028 August, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

We at Scotch Oakburn College are committed to being an inclusive and diverse educational setting, where every student feels they can bring their full selves to school each day. This includes fostering a strong and supportive environment where gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, asexual and agender (LGBTQIA+) and those who are just unsure, students feel safe and welcomed within our Scotch Oakburn community. By creating a school where everyone feels the psychological safety that allows them to be who they are with ease, we increase student wellbeing as well as […]

18 08, 2020

Daily lessons in resilience for kids

2020-08-21T15:01:05+10:0018 August, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

by Michael Grose


Recently, I saw a mother give a simple, yet profound resilience lesson to her three-year-old. The toddler fell into his dog’s bowl, saturating his t-shirt and giving himself a fright. His mum quickly helped him saying, “Oh well!” The three-year-old bravely parroted his mother, saying, “Oh well!” and dashed off to play.

It’s in our reactions to these and other everyday mistakes, mess-ups, muck-ups and hurts where the big lessons in resilience are taught and reinforced.

The lessons for the three-year-old were simple but profound. “Oh well” meant:

  • Stuff happens
  • Don’t look for fault or blame
  • Keep your perspective
  • […]

13 08, 2020

Help kids to beat COVID induced anxiety

2020-08-14T12:06:09+10:0013 August, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author:  Michael Grose


 

Since COVID  has entered our lives I’ve had countless conversations with parents and enquiries from schools seeking presentations on how to support kids with COVID induced anxiety.

It’s wonderful to see how kids’ mental health and wellbeing is being prioritised, and importantly, resourced. However, these conversations show we still have some way to go as a community to fully grasp the nature of anxiety.

While the current situation we are all living through is extremely difficult, it does present an opportunity to develop sustained growth and vitality in anxious children and young people.

In Anxious Kids, the book I co-authored […]

7 08, 2020

You are what you pay attention to

2020-08-07T13:04:18+10:007 August, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

How much information do you pay attention to each day, and how much passes you by?

This was a question that intrigued Danish science writer Tor Nørretranders, and his research turned up some interesting numbers. Nørretranders estimates that our senses (particularly our eyes) pour information into our brain at the rate of around 11 million bytes (11 Megabytes) per second. However, most of this is filtered out by our subconscious, as the conscious part of our brain can only process around 70 bytes per second.

It’s the reason why athletes can flawlessly perform […]

6 08, 2020

Keeping perspective amidst constraints

2020-08-07T10:59:18+10:006 August, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

As Tasmania’s response to the Coronavirus continues, many organisations are continuing to cancel events, restricting face to face meetings and the borders are largely closed. Similarly, individuals remain affected with many having travel plans cancelled, being unable to attend interstate family events or even be with an ill loved one.

The outbreak has clearly disrupted our personal and professional routines, adding a new level of constraints to our daily lives.

But operating with constraints isn’t always bad, particularly here in Tasmania where we are so fortunate to be Coronavirus free. Often, constraints can […]

29 07, 2020

Hacking Happiness

2020-07-31T10:34:52+10:0029 July, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

I am often amazed at the multitude of books, courses, seminars and podcasts held every year with the ultimate objective of assisting people to become happier.

We know that finding our purpose, living in the present moment and practising gratitude are all extremely helpful and beneficial strategies that we can adopt to be happier, but what else can we do?

Lately, as we all know, things have been quite difficult and many students have been speaking to me about their worries and concerns for the future.  I have found myself more and more […]

22 07, 2020

Pick your battles wisely

2020-07-24T11:58:03+10:0022 July, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author:  Michael Grose


 

Three-year-old Sam was tired and cranky. He refused his mother’s request to put his plate in the sink after a snack.

Elsa, Sam’s mother, who was usually quite firm didn’t insist that her son comply. She knew that when her son got into ‘one of those moods’ it was best to leave him alone.

“You’ve got to pick your battles,” said an exasperated Elsa to the other parents in the room.

She also added, “You’ve got to pick the timing of your battles.” Tired and emotional kids are incapable of processing what a parent is saying. Reason goes out the […]

18 06, 2020

Developing young people’s emotional smarts

2020-06-19T09:55:53+10:0018 June, 2020|Categories: Junior School, Middle School, Senior School, Wellbeing|

Author: Michael Grose


 

The last few months have certainly been a test of a young person’s emotional smarts. The ups and downs of the COVID-19 experience continue to play on the emotions of all us, but for adolescence who are going through a period of brain development, this can be a particularly tricky time. Fortunately, parents are in a wonderful position to assist and in doing so develop emotional smarts in their young people. The following strategies will help:

Talk openly about feelings

Your young person will benefit from being around adults who talk about their own emotions and feelings rather than […]