Most parents would agree that if their child doesn’t see a point in doing something, they simply won’t do it. Given teens (in particular) can be very difficult to convince, cajole and persuade, motivating one can be near impossible.
Its important to note however that not feeling motivated hasn’t got much to do with motivation, its far more to do with the feelings of anxiety and worry. Motivation therefore has a lot to do with overcoming fears and fears as we know, loom larger if we avoid them.
Here is where parenting becomes difficult. No parent wants to see their child or teen upset at the thought of having to do something they really don’t want to do BUT if we let them avoid, their fears build up and confidence decreases. Many of us have had the experience of letting our child take a day off school due to wellbeing concerns (usually a big worry) only to find getting them there the next day even more challenging!
So how can we build on a child’s confidence and motivation?
Most people aren’t good at everything so working with your child’s strengths is a great starting point. Success and confidence in life is about doing more of what you are good at, what brings you joy and energy. When you focus on the things your child finds more enjoyable and easier they begin to find even the more difficult tasks tolerable.
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Confidence & Motivation | Scotch Oakburn College
Kylie Wolstencroft
Director Wellbeing – Penquite
